How to Say “No”
Learning to say “no” can be an important part of simplifying your life and managing your stress. It is asserting your right to choose. Saying “no” doesn’t mean that you are being rude or disagreeable. It is about respecting and valuing your time and space.
Listen respectfully to the requester, then phrase your “no” as simply as possible. You can say that your schedule is too full or that you are just not able to commit. You can thank them but refer them to someone else.
Or you can just say “no.” You do not have to explain your refusal. But you may have to repeat it. Stand firm if the requester does not accept your refusal. Remember that it is your choice.
Be ready to repeat
Say no — not “I’m not sure.”
Be brief –- if you choose to explain be simple.
Be honest –- don’t fabricate.
Be respectful –- listen, say that you understand but can’t commit.
Be ready to repeat — it’s best to use the same words and to stay level and calm.
Saying no is simply taking a pass on something that you do not strongly support.
Blog post written by Susan, Northfield Enterprise Center Volunteer.
Recommended: “When I Say No, I Feel Guilty” by Manuel J. Smith